I told you recently about my twenties being a very difficult decade for me.
What I haven’t talked a lot about was my very short time in a sorority.
That’s right, this writer was a sorority girl and, you know what, I loved every minute of it.
So here’s a bit of what it’s like:
1. I chose to rush.
This means that I knew going into college that I wanted to be in a sorority, so I spent about a week getting to know several of the sororities along with about two hundred other girls. At the end of each day (sometimes, after I had even gone to bed) a girl who was in an unnamed sorority on the panhellenic council would come to my room and let me know which sororities kept me and which chose to not have me back the next day.
If there are more sororities that way to keep you and you only have so many slots left (say there are seven sororities that want to keep you and the next day there are only five slots for the next event) then you have to choose the five you want to keep.
And the selection continues to dwindle until you only have two options. At which point, you may get a “bid” to join both sororities and you have to pick the one that fits you best.
2. You Pay for the Experience
Yes, there is a fee associated with being a member of a sorority BUT these fees go to support the events that you go to. I was only in the sorority for one semester as I chose to get married (love you, hubs) but during that time I went on a float trip and to a dance. Both of these events were free for me to attend because I already paid chapter dues.
It irks me when people say, “I wouldn’t be in a sorority because it’s like you pay to have friends.” So, then, you don’t want to pay dues to be in a sorority but you’re willing to pay hundreds of dollars to go on a float trip that I just took at, what seemed like, no cost to me???
Then, again, to each their own.
3. You make friends for life
Look at baby me… wasn’t I cute? Oh, yes, and my diamond sis is too!
Anyways, life has moved on, we are all older but you know what? These girls are my friends for life and I am so grateful for the experience that I did get to have.
I’m proud to say that we were the second smallest sorority when I went there but are now the largest sorority at the University of Southern Mississippi.
And one day, my girls will get to have as well because they are legacies.
My oldest made this in kindergarten after finding out her teacher was an ADPi as well. I talk to them all the time about the way we “should” do life. I will support them no matter their decisions but I hope that it includes an entire four years with Alpha Delta Pi.
They’ve already been told that one year they each have to bring their Mimi to Mother-Daughter Tea since she and I didn’t get to experience that together.
I’m forever grateful- OBIC.